More on my trip

This is the photo from our ceremony when we were renewed our vows in the catholic church. Father Shawn was awesome!


Anyway, Allen was 16 years older and I. We always thought that we were split-aparts; eventhough, we had such an age difference!



We were huge fans of the movie, "Somewhere in Time." We called each other "our somewhere in time." Anyone who came to the memorial would be able to recongize the music being played as the soundtrack to that movie.



As I have thought about where to get closure, what better place than where we planned to vaction on our 25th Wedding Anniversary. It was our dream to make it to Macinack Island to visit the Grand Hotel where the movie was filmed.


To the right, you can see the front of the Grand Hotel.

I am both excited and saddened at the purpose of my trip. I miss Allen so very much; however, I can choose to wallow in my loss or choose to live.

After attending two 10 week Alabama Grief Support groups, I have learned that grief work is a series of choices. One choice builds upon the other. I am choosing to live.

I was with Allen 20 years. Given that I am turning 41 next Wednesday, I was with him half of my life. I feel like I am entering into a period of birthing a new me. I have no idea what the "new me" will look like but it should be an adventure.

Mother and I leave on Sunday for our long road trip. I am chuckling because I am going to take pics along the way and post them via my Blackjack PDA.

Anyway, stay tuned for more!!!!